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Discover common taboo topics your child might need to know




Before your child leaves home, you might want to think about what possible things they need to be equipped with before they go out into the big wide world.
Apart from common sense, self-responsibility, social skills and so forth, they may also want to have in place a good grounding sense of certain taboo topics.



What are some of these taboo topics?

ONE: basic knowledge and exposure to mental health topics and physical health needs/changes

TWO: The confidence to talk about emotional, hard, and scary 'human' sensitive topics such as relationships, sexual consent, puberty, cancer and so forth

THREE: Visited or offered their time at a homeless shelter, an old age home, community centres with down syndrome, refugees etc. to gain an understanding of vulnerable people

FOUR: Awareness and appropriate knowledge of how to navigate unhealthy/toxic situations such as being approached by untrustworthy/manipulative strangers. Or friends or even themselves talking of suicide/self-ideation and so forth

FIVE: Experience how to approach taboo topics such as masturbation, peer pressure, bullying and so forth, with the same level of comfort as any other topic such as Maths and English

SIX: Confident to not hide away or refuse to talk about these taboo topics in life and understands the consequences if they 'brush' them under the carpet

SEVEN: Recognises where to research reputable medical or mental health sites and is able to identify the basic signs of people suffering from depression, schizophrenia, bipolar and other mental illnesses

EIGHT: Knows about the concept of therapy and how to find one from reputable organisations such as PACFA, ACA or other psychotherapy governing bodies

NINE: To identify how to address potential difficult people/situations where others may not have their best interest at heart such as paedophiles, cult groups, narcissistic partners and so forth

TEN: Has the ability to self-regulate fearful emotions around 'life' topics such as pornography, drugs, love, different religions/culture, relationship/lifestyle choices and so forth.


However, how do you know exactly what these subjects involve?
How do you even know WHERE to start with them?

That's just it, there is not much out there on this.
Most families unconsciously hope schools will fill the gap.
Sadly, these topics are not taught in schools.
This is just not happening.
The reality is it's not on the school's radar.
But it needs to be.
I'm hoping in the future it will be added to the physical health curriculum.
At the moment though, there is too much red tape and unfortunately parents are being left to pick up the pieces.


So how could the average family actually address these taboo topics?

This is where these little handy children's 'taboo topic' eBooks can help.

Your child could be exposed to learning how to pitch in and become more comfortable with these universal issues, the same way children eventually learn to reel off their times tables. They can experience, reflect, and come to conclusions together with you about these hard topics.

Above all, think about the head start your child will have if they check off all these taboo topics before their life begins on their own.
Think about the head start you would have had, had you checked this list off when you were still in school.

In my psychotherapy practice over the last 20 years, I've worked through these taboo topics with so many children of all ages. It is still such a pleasure to witness the increase in their confidence as their knowledge grows often dramatically in these areas.


So, what can these taboo topics GIVE your child?

They can change your child's thought processes and lift their perspective in healthier ways.
They can finally be prepared for these themes if/when they turn up in their lives.
They can show you how to keep your child safe, informed, and ready to face the world with all its bumpy taboos.

Most of the little eBooks are split into 2 parts.
By the time you get to part two, you would have already scored a BIG win.
You'll know you have covered the basics of what any psychotherapist would cover if they encountered the same topic with a child.


What's the targeted AGE group?

These eBooks have been written at times in an amusing, gentle and broad way that most five to fifteen year old's would find attention-grabbing.

Part one is about effectively talking to a young child but also to an older child's younger emotional self or to the less developed part of their brain. It involves highlighting these topics in a gentle, non-judgemental, and warm way.

Part two explores this in depth and will arm your child with a deeper understanding to help them grasp the concept in a more manageable way. It also involves planting the seed and encouraging the child and parent to feel more at ease to take the conversation further at another time.


Note to PARENT/S:

It's worth noting how as families we want to BUILD on these hard conversations and to understand how these little stories are to be seen as a doorway, one that can help you to overcome any embarrassment or fear you may have. They are designed to start the ball rolling towards having these very much needed, yet difficult conversations with your child.

These eBooks may not answer all your child's questions but will hopefully allow you to begin the journey of exploring these difficult topics together.



WARNING:

Some of the material may be confronting for some parents but with an experienced therapist narrative you could skilfully work through the bulk of it and know that your child will be PSYCHOLOGICALLY in a better place.



What's the REALITY of all this?

Most people don't address these taboo topics in life until they're in their 30's but sometimes not even then. Remember as a parent you can afford to get a lot of small things wrong, as long as you get a few big things right. And some of these big things involve addressing and educating your child on topics that can appear at first as off-limits.

As parents we may consider these little eBook topics outside of our responsibility, or we might put them in the 'hard basket' for a later time, or we might feel our child already has a full knowledge and understanding them or lastly, we might hold onto the myth that the child is not ready to be 'exposed' to such topics.

It can be all too easy to neglect these conversations and to feel completely apprehensive about them. However, these eBooks are where most of the work is done for you. All you need to do is to read them together with your child and be open to what questions/statements they might make during/after. It's from there that the conversation has a chance to expand towards really connecting and understanding more about how your child thinks and feels about these 'taboo' topics.

We spend weekend after weekend with our kids, and our memories sometimes can blend together. What's needed though is to maybe rise above our family routine to create space to add in a few minutes of reading these ten taboo topics.

It's good to remember how moments that stick with us years later, are ones that generally involve praise and where the child is involved in emotionally elevated experiences. However, there is also one other important experience to consider. That's when a child feels understood and connected with an adult around fearful, difficult, or confusing topics.

I originally mapped out these taboo topics for my own family but now they are available for your family too.

A lot of effort, time and thought has gone into these eBooks but let me be clear this is not just a list of topics of psychobabble or short stories that do not really speak to a child. They instead involve bringing the child and yourself into experiences that can have extraordinary impact. They could even be the building blocks of life changing connecting moments in your family.



These eBooks are an alternative to crossing your fingers and hoping for the best.


This is a chance for example to avoid sitting and asking yourself how did we miss these signs of self-ideation, bullying, teenage pregnancy or how did we not know how our child likes to be 'loved' and cared for.
Therapists' work naturally with assisting parents in this area, but these eBooks could be your short cut where you can save much TIME going back and forth to therapy.

Most parents are blindfolded with these subjects.
But these subjects are here in our everyday lives.
They are a part of the society we live in.
They have always been here, but therapists are trained to not turn their heads.
When parents turn their heads and ignore potential or actual taboo themes it tends to cost them more FINANCIALLY in the long run.

If you're a parent, grandparent, uncle, aunty or have children you care about in your life, whether they're five or fifteen, it's never too early or too late to start.


What's the PRICE?

There are two packages to choose from.

‘The essential kids’ eBook series which includes unique mini-individual eBooks inside the collection and costs $100.
‘The me too’ eBook series which includes unique mini-individual eBooks inside the collection and costs $100.


EXTRA information:

Once purchased you will be sent an email with a zip file containing the eBooks with instructions on how to open them on your preferred e -reader (iPad, kindle, computer...). The email itself may take between 5 to 30 minutes to show up in your inbox. Please check your junk mail if needed.

When you reach the 'sex growing up talk' section, I do recommend reading both the boys and the girl's perspective, regardless of your child's or client's gender. Even though the conversations and stories may overlap, it might help the child to grasp a more well-rounded understanding of this section.
Lastly, sometimes it's worth reading the topics you are not only rusty on but one's you are also over optimistic with.


A PERSONAL side note:

These little eBooks were not eBooks from the start. Over the years certain parents and families from my therapy practice have struggled to address certain 'taboo' topics with their children. Through many therapy conversations these topics were addressed head on and discussed with much care and sensitivity.

It was here I assumed these topics would be a 'walk in the park' for my own family. I thought it would be easy to switch between my 'Professional hat' and my 'Mummy hat' so to speak. How wrong I was. As my children started to grow, I realised I was fumbling all over the place when facing these topics.

So, as a family we started 'making up' stories together before bed. We would work out what type of topics, characters, and scenes we wanted, and the story would develop from there. We expressed the topics in a fun, non-complicated way, without being fuelled with fear or with a prejudiced tone. Soon it became one of the more popular activities to do before bed.

I started writing down the really good stories as not all of them were 'hits'. I also wrote down the 'real conversations' we would have about the things that mattered to them and the things they were confused about.

Over time there was so much material that my small, tattered notebook produced many word documents. From there I developed these little eBooks. I think there are about 66 in total so far, with more popping up randomly as my children and my psychotherapy practice grows.

My children have enthusiastically created most of the artwork and have proofread each eBook with a "thumbs" up. Overall, they've been written in a non-urgent manner and in a digestible way for most children to absorb. With an open philosophical attitude, each story gives the child the opportunity to wonder. Most of all though they have the potential to satisfy, contain and nurture any child's understanding of these "taboo" conversations.

I hope you and your family benefit and enjoy them as much as my family and clients have so far.